Loving parents want the best for their children at all times, especially during divorce. Often, the best advice for parents is to simply keep doing what they have always done to foster a strong relationship with your children. Listening, loving and leading by example are great ways to help your children understand they still are and always will be loved by both of their parents.
Here are four important tips for parents to help their children get through the challenges of a divorce;
#1. Encourage Communication
In the confusion of a divorce, your children should be able to freely express how they are dealing with the difficulties of the divorce. When open discourse is welcomed by both parents, children will better come to grips with the reality of the situation and their changing family dynamic.
#2. Be Patient
Give your children time to process this new family situation. No two children will respond to a divorce in the same way, so don’t force a discussion before your children are ready. Instead, create open lines of communication and be ready to discuss their feelings when each child is ready.
#3. Don’t Disparage Your Spouse
Speaking ill of your ex-spouse should be avoided whenever your children are around. Although the love may be lost between the two of you as spouses, understand that your children will continue to love and care for you both very deeply.
Few divorce issues can hurt children more than being treated as a parent’s outlet for venting their frustrations. Instead, do your best to speak positively about your ex-spouse if they come up in conversation. Otherwise, simply remain silent. Although this may be difficult, your children will be better off if you make this sacrifice.
#4. Lead by Example
Children will have an easier time staying positive if they see their parents setting an uplifting tone. Children will mimic your attitude and can sense your emotions. Ultimately, it is up to you as a parent to make the transition smoother and help them not feel like the world is ending.
Contact us at Hallier Lawrence for more information on helping your children deal with the trauma of divorce.